Kick Off the New Year with a Positive Mindset

It's that time of year again. Whether you're buying a new planner, getting the kids ready to go back to school, or planning a party, each of us prepare for the start of the year in a different way. 

When we think of the New Year, we often think of resolutions, goals, and otherwise things we're looking forward to achieving. We also tend to take into stock what we wanted to do, or what we didn't manage to achieve last year. Maybe things like the money we didn't manage to save, or the weight we didn't lose. When we start thinking like this, we tend to take on a negative mindset and begin to criticize ourselves. 

This year, let’s shift our focus away from what we didn’t accomplish and begin the New Year with a more positive outlook.

Concentrate on What You Achieved

Instead of ruminating on what you didn't do, focus on what you did do this last year. Maybe you didn't lose weight, but you did start eating more salads and other fresh foods. Maybe you did save money, even if it wasn't as much as you hoped. Maybe you walked more, hung out with more family and friends, or just generally had more joy in your life. Whatever the case, give yourself a pat on the back. 

Don't be afraid to write down the things that you did last year, even if they weren't exactly your "goals." Remind yourself how good it felt to do these things and what these actions have brought into your life. 

Ready to feel “enough?”

Why Resolutions Can Sometimes Do More Harm Than Good

"But New Year's resolutions are positive!" You might argue, and you're right! New Year's resolutions are often set with the best intentions. But, as I mentioned before, when we look back on our resolutions (or just the year in general) we tend to focus on what we didn't do. And that puts us in a mindset where we think we haven't done "enough."

New Year's resolutions can be hijacked by unrealistic expectations, social pressure, and perfectionism. When we don't feel we have met our goals, we may feel inadequate and feel like we're constantly behind or not good enough. This (surprise, surprise) can create a cycle of negative self-talk and self-criticism, ultimately impacting our overall mental health.

Set Compassionate Intentions, Not Rigid Resolutions

Instead of setting strict end-goals, we can prioritize self-compassion and flexibility. This could include something like intentions, focusing on progress rather than perfection, and being kind to ourselves when we are faced with setbacks. 

When we approach the year with a positive mindset, it’s easier to attract more positivity and opportunity into our lives. We start to focus on the good, find gratitude in little things, and become more resilient to challenges.

Practical Steps for Maintaining a Positive Outlook

1. Practice positive self-talk.

It may not be easy, but practice being kinder to yourself. When you think of something negative, try replacing it with a positive affirmation. For example, maybe you get down on yourself for not working out hard enough. Instead, tell yourself "Today I am strong. I chose to get out of bed and be active." 

2. Journal.

Write down what you achieve, even if you think it wasn’t an achievement. Note your thoughts and feelings, as well as things you are grateful for. This helps you to gain perspective and maintain self-compassion.

3. Move your body.

Even if it's for a short time and/or tiny movements, physical activity releases endorphins, which can improve your mood. When you’re in a better mood, it’s easier to maintain a positive mindset when or if you’re faced with challenges throughout the day.

4. Try something new. 

While doing the same things every day can bring us stability, it can also become monotonous at times. If you're feeling a little "stuck," try breaking out and trying something new. This can be something as small as taking a walk at a different park or trying a new fruit.

5. Help and connect with others.

Volunteering or simply offering assistance to others can give us a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Spending time with friends and loved ones and engaging in meaningful conversations helps us connect with the world around us and helps us see the brighter side of things. 

Start Your New Year with Cheryl Perry, MA LCMHCA NCC

If you're struggling with finding positivity in your life, know that you're not alone. The New Year can be a tough time for many people. If you'd like help in making this year brighter, please reach out. I specialize in helping all folx work through stress, anxiety, and big life transitions to regain a sense of control, build coping skills, and find meaning in their lives. 

Remember, you're enough as you are. Happy New Year!

I would like to be clear that this blog post is not intended to substitute for professional counseling. If you are in need of support, please consider speaking to a professional counselor.